Marc Coulter is an independent facilitator of Parenting the Love and Logic Way® Classes and 9 essential skills for the love and logic classroom®
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(Due to the current pandemic restrictions I am unable to offer classes at this time)
Learn how to:
that can be used immediately!
RSVP to Marc at 303-388-9749
- Avoid un-winnable power-struggles and arguments
- Stay calm when your kids do incredibly upsetting things
- Set enforceable limits
- Avoid enabling and begin empowering
- Help your kids learn from mistakes rather than repeating them
- Raise kids who are family members rather than dictators
- And much more!
that can be used immediately!
RSVP to Marc at 303-388-9749
Denver Parenting the Love and Logic Way® Classes
“The techniques my parents used so effectively just don't seem to work with kids today.”
Does this statement sound familiar to you?
At no time in history have parents been more unsure of their parental role. Many feel like their children control their homes, won’t listen to them, and spend too much time arguing.
A lot of conflicting philosophies have been presented over the last 30 years. Many sound good on the surface, but don't seem to do the job of helping children become respectful, responsible, and a joy to be around.
Many of these ideas, offered with the best of intentions, center around making sure that kids are comfortable and feel good about themselves in order to have a good self-concept. However, studies have discovered that self-confidence is achieved through struggle and achievement, not through someone telling you that you are number one. Children will develop self-confidence by discovering that they can indeed solve their own problems with caring adult guidance.
What is Parenting the Love and Logic Way®?
There is an approach to raising kids that provides loving support from parents while at the same time setting the expectation for kids to be respectful and responsible.
This approach is known as Love and Logic®, a philosophy founded by Jim Fay and Foster W. Cline, M.D., and based on the experience of a combined total of over 75 years working with and raising kids.
Many parents want their kids to be well-prepared for life, and they know this means kids will make mistakes and must be held accountable for those choices. But these parents often fail to acknowledge the poor decisions of their children because they are afraid it will make them seem mean. The result is they often excuse bad behavior, finding it easier to hold others, including themselves, accountable for their children's irresponsibility.
Jim Fay teaches us that we should "lock in our empathy, love, and understanding" prior to telling kids what the consequences of their actions will be. The Love and Logic® curriculum teaches parents how to hold their kids accountable in this special way. This method causes the child to see their parent as the "good guy" and the child's poor decision as the "bad guy." When done on a regular basis, kids develop an internal voice that says, "I wonder how much pain I'm going to cause for myself with my next decision?" Kids who develop this internal voice become more capable of standing up to peer pressure.
What more could a parent want? This method serves as a form of family therapy that can be completed within the home and by members of the family. Parent-child relationships are enhanced, family life becomes less strained, and you will have time to enjoy our kids instead of either feeling used by them or being transformed from parent to policeman.
Love and Logic® in Action
Here is a short example of how a parent might use Love and Logic® when their child begs for a new bicycle:
Dad: "Oh, no. You left your bike unlocked and it was stolen. What a bummer. I bet you feel awful. Well, I understand how easy it is to make a mistake like that." (Notice that the parent is not leading with anger, intimidation, or threats.)
Dad then adds, "And you'll have another bike as soon as you can earn enough money to pay for it. I paid for the first one. You can pay for the additional ones."
Love & Logic® parents know that no child is going to accept this without an argument, but Love and Logic parents can handle arguments. Jim Fay advises "just go brain dead." This means that parents don't try to argue or match wits with the child. They simply repeat, as many times as necessary, "I love you too much to argue." No matter what argument the child uses, the parent responds "I love you too much to argue." Parents who learn how to use these techniques completely change their relationships with kids and take control of the home in loving ways.
Parenting the Love & Logic Way® Classes
Marc Coulter is an independent facilitator of Parenting the Love and Logic Way curriculum. He teaches classes on this groundbreaking parenting method in the Denver area. This parenting program is designed to give you practical skills that can be used immediately!
Learn how to:
RSVP to Marc at 303-388-9749
“The techniques my parents used so effectively just don't seem to work with kids today.”
Does this statement sound familiar to you?
At no time in history have parents been more unsure of their parental role. Many feel like their children control their homes, won’t listen to them, and spend too much time arguing.
A lot of conflicting philosophies have been presented over the last 30 years. Many sound good on the surface, but don't seem to do the job of helping children become respectful, responsible, and a joy to be around.
Many of these ideas, offered with the best of intentions, center around making sure that kids are comfortable and feel good about themselves in order to have a good self-concept. However, studies have discovered that self-confidence is achieved through struggle and achievement, not through someone telling you that you are number one. Children will develop self-confidence by discovering that they can indeed solve their own problems with caring adult guidance.
What is Parenting the Love and Logic Way®?
There is an approach to raising kids that provides loving support from parents while at the same time setting the expectation for kids to be respectful and responsible.
This approach is known as Love and Logic®, a philosophy founded by Jim Fay and Foster W. Cline, M.D., and based on the experience of a combined total of over 75 years working with and raising kids.
Many parents want their kids to be well-prepared for life, and they know this means kids will make mistakes and must be held accountable for those choices. But these parents often fail to acknowledge the poor decisions of their children because they are afraid it will make them seem mean. The result is they often excuse bad behavior, finding it easier to hold others, including themselves, accountable for their children's irresponsibility.
Jim Fay teaches us that we should "lock in our empathy, love, and understanding" prior to telling kids what the consequences of their actions will be. The Love and Logic® curriculum teaches parents how to hold their kids accountable in this special way. This method causes the child to see their parent as the "good guy" and the child's poor decision as the "bad guy." When done on a regular basis, kids develop an internal voice that says, "I wonder how much pain I'm going to cause for myself with my next decision?" Kids who develop this internal voice become more capable of standing up to peer pressure.
What more could a parent want? This method serves as a form of family therapy that can be completed within the home and by members of the family. Parent-child relationships are enhanced, family life becomes less strained, and you will have time to enjoy our kids instead of either feeling used by them or being transformed from parent to policeman.
Love and Logic® in Action
Here is a short example of how a parent might use Love and Logic® when their child begs for a new bicycle:
Dad: "Oh, no. You left your bike unlocked and it was stolen. What a bummer. I bet you feel awful. Well, I understand how easy it is to make a mistake like that." (Notice that the parent is not leading with anger, intimidation, or threats.)
Dad then adds, "And you'll have another bike as soon as you can earn enough money to pay for it. I paid for the first one. You can pay for the additional ones."
Love & Logic® parents know that no child is going to accept this without an argument, but Love and Logic parents can handle arguments. Jim Fay advises "just go brain dead." This means that parents don't try to argue or match wits with the child. They simply repeat, as many times as necessary, "I love you too much to argue." No matter what argument the child uses, the parent responds "I love you too much to argue." Parents who learn how to use these techniques completely change their relationships with kids and take control of the home in loving ways.
Parenting the Love & Logic Way® Classes
Marc Coulter is an independent facilitator of Parenting the Love and Logic Way curriculum. He teaches classes on this groundbreaking parenting method in the Denver area. This parenting program is designed to give you practical skills that can be used immediately!
Learn how to:
- Avoid un-winnable power struggles and arguments
- Stay calm when your kids do incredibly upsetting things
- Set enforceable limits
- Avoid enabling and begin empowering
- Help your kids learn from mistakes rather than repeating them
- Raise kids who are family members rather than dictators
- And much more!
RSVP to Marc at 303-388-9749